July 14, 2011
Tango Is a Relationship
Tango is an intimate dance. It invites your partner into your personal space—into physical contact, mutual presence, and shared experience. Your partner feels your responsiveness, witnesses your cooperation, and partakes in the give-and-take of accommodation and protection. Through this closeness, tango opens a path to your inner self, allowing your partner to hear what you cannot say aloud. Indeed, much can be learned about a person through dancing with them. The way you connect, move, communicate, respond, and adapt reveals your physical awareness, psychological disposition, ethical stance, artistic expression, and aesthetic sense. Your dance is a mirror of who you are: warm or distant, shy or open, expressive or restrained, spontaneous or rigid, musical or tone-deaf, sensitive or sluggish, serene or restless, accommodating or contentious, graceful or awkward, yielding or assertive. In tango, nothing is hidden.
Tango is a relationship. Like any meaningful relationship—where the well-being of both people is intertwined—it calls on you to bring forth your best self in order to bring out the best in your partner. In tango, as in life, the greatest obstacle is the ego. Ego fuels self-centeredness, arrogance, control, rigidity, irritability, resistance, and rudeness. True enjoyment of tango comes only when two people move together as one, in mutual agreement and harmony. This unity requires letting go of ego, surrendering to your partner’s presence, tuning into their rhythm, and synchronizing your movements with theirs. You must adjust to them—complementing their strengths, compensating for their weaknesses, and creating a space where they feel safe, comfortable, and free to enjoy the dance. If you dance only for yourself and neglect your partner, the connection breaks—no matter how technically brilliant your steps may be.
Ultimately, tango as a social act demands good manners. Learning tango is far more than mastering steps. It is, among other things such as acquiring a cultivated taste, a different set of values, and a new cultural lens, learning to be one with another person. Unfortunately, this perspective is frequently overlooked. Too often, people get caught up in their own egos and forget what really matters. Don’t make that mistake. Tango isn’t about show—it’s about connection.
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ReplyDelete"Please, just for me, forget the steps...hold me, feel the music, and give me your soul. Then I can give you mine."
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