tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post2265690595679247417..comments2024-01-31T09:07:07.862-06:00Comments on In Search of Tango: Women’s Role in CabeceoPaul Yanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10850021582471988048noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-75767979961289787142015-05-18T10:25:20.589-05:002015-05-18T10:25:20.589-05:00Slightly less respectfully, if for you Tango (with...Slightly less respectfully, if for you Tango (with capital T, as it is a proper name of a musical genre) is physics, geometry, etc. you obviously believe that the so-called 'Tango Nuevo' is Tango. For in 'Tango Nuevo' the emphasis are in the irrelevant crap. For me, and for most tangueros, Tango is about connection, music, sensuality, and the other 'hyperbole' with which you disagree. The things you enumerate are just tools, techniques for achievieng a seamless experience in moving together, feeling together, listening together. And it is the view of physics and geometry that is designed to sell classes, etc. Volcadas, colgadas, cagadas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-66713726225066443472015-03-29T14:52:59.850-05:002015-03-29T14:52:59.850-05:00What an interesting post and an interesting articl...What an interesting post and an interesting article! I wear glasses and am short sighted. I take them off when attending milongas so often miss the cabaceo. The result? I sit for ages waiting to be asked to dance. Maybe I'm old or too ugly? .... Or maybe just short sighted!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-87552709075132756602015-01-16T13:36:15.239-06:002015-01-16T13:36:15.239-06:00Respectfully, if you are not having (at the very l...Respectfully, if you are not having (at the very least) an intimate experience you're not doing it right. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-40516132182812531752014-11-22T22:07:51.092-06:002014-11-22T22:07:51.092-06:00I have to ask men to dance all the time in Tango b...I have to ask men to dance all the time in Tango because if I don't they won't ask me to dance. When I ask my guy friends who don't dance tango why this happens, they say, because maybe you're too tall 5'11 in heels, or too pretty, too intimidating because you're too pretty...or things along those lines. It's really irritating and unfair...and I think that a woman should not be asking a man to dance, especially in a dance like Tango. I feel like a lot of men do not have cohones these days. I have never told a man I wouldn't dance with him unless I was already getting ready to leave. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-71963623830945879012013-04-03T22:47:10.404-05:002013-04-03T22:47:10.404-05:00Men have different ways of cabeceo-ing women, but,...Men have different ways of cabeceo-ing women, but, in general, most men use a cocked head, not a nod, to signal their desire to dance. The women usually respond with nods. Terpsichoralhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01096638204125246281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-10255725481930009232013-01-16T04:35:40.849-06:002013-01-16T04:35:40.849-06:00If tango could be enjoyable, don’t you think that ...If tango could be enjoyable, don’t you think that could be some people’s reason to dance tango? Believe me, when tango is beyond “physics and geometry,” it is much more enjoyable. Once you discover that secret, you will understand why tango to so many people is not about physics and geometry but a sensual and intimate experience, and why the inventors of tango also invented cabeseo. I also think you got one fact wrong. It is those who treat tango as acrobats, show or fantasia that are selling a lot of lessons, dresses, shoes and tango paraphernalia.Paul Yanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10850021582471988048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-34511119127855335782013-01-09T16:29:10.553-06:002013-01-09T16:29:10.553-06:00I disagree with the hyperbole about tango as a: &q...I disagree with the hyperbole about tango as a: "a sensual and intimate experience" (above). Tango is more about physics & geometry, balance & movement. It may or may not be enjoyable. When it is enjoyable, that`s nice.<br /><br />The exagerated descriptions sell alot of lessons, dresses, shoes & tango paraphenalia. Tango may help people meet, but not necessarily bring the things advertised by tango promoters & entrepeneurs. <br /><br />And, though it may bring people together, it can also tear them apart. Listen to the lyrics of tango music and the many tango couples that dissolve. <br /><br />As Gavito said, "it`s just a dance".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-64988447690468841052012-12-27T21:19:16.830-06:002012-12-27T21:19:16.830-06:00As a leader, I don’t like to be asked to dance. I ...As a leader, I don’t like to be asked to dance. I don’t mean to be mean but I want to dance with whom ever I want when the time and music are perfect. If I sit all night and never dance because the energy and music is not right, then that is fine with me. That is the only way I can enjoy it and hopefully allow my dance partner to enjoy it as well. I don’t care to dance Vals or Milonga. I prefer to watch other dance those, so I wait for the Tango.<br />Once, I had seen a lady at a Milonga that I wanted to dance with. I kept looking for her most of the night. It was a very large Milonga. Just as I had seen her, another lady came up to me and asked me to dance. I could not decline the invitation since I think it would be rued. I was never able to dance with the lady I wanted to. I miss my opportunity because a lady asked me to dance. <br />Some men can dance all night, with every lady that will accept and any music that is playing. I myself can not do that. It has to be right or I won’t dance. <br />I try to use the cabeceo every time, but in our community it is really hard. Very few ladies use it, but when they do, it is great. It is such a wonderful and simple way to invite some one. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-47440665479980192812012-08-07T02:51:32.949-05:002012-08-07T02:51:32.949-05:00Thanks two great tango ladies!Thanks two great tango ladies!Paul Yanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10850021582471988048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-54299138085137365722011-08-14T22:48:11.662-05:002011-08-14T22:48:11.662-05:00There was a time in the early 1940s when young men...There was a time in the early 1940s when young men had to ask the mothers' permission to dance with their daughters. If a mother didn't approve of him, it was public knowledge. That's when the practice of the cabeceo began to avoid public embarrassment.<br /><br />When a man is on the other side of the room, staring into his eyes is impossible. One has to be perceptive to the subtleties of the cabeceo. There is no opportunity for staring; it's body language that helps convey the invitation. <br /><br />Men generally invite women who are the same height - tall men search for tall women as dance partners, etc. The challenge is making a split-second connection to initiate an invitation. It works.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-61973136849408766242011-08-14T08:21:59.779-05:002011-08-14T08:21:59.779-05:00Great post!
The cabeceo and music played in tanda...Great post! <br />The cabeceo and music played in tandas followed by a cortina are the most civilized customs ever!<br /><br />I've noticed in the U.S. though that the women are not passive at all as they run around the salon asking men to dance. Sometimes they never even sit down! But here in BsAs sometimes these very same women are too shy to stare into a strange man's eyes across the floor. <br /><br />It's not easy to cabeceo, and it takes practice. But it works so well to everyone's advantage, that I wish more foreign tango communities would use it.tangocheriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10012220622641996877noreply@blogger.com