tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post8801246989357941287..comments2024-01-31T09:07:07.862-06:00Comments on In Search of Tango: Private Whispers in the Milongas, by Sara MelulPaul Yanghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10850021582471988048noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-67392197965409252762015-03-29T15:31:24.674-05:002015-03-29T15:31:24.674-05:00Words can only embellish what movement and feeling...Words can only embellish what movement and feeling demonstrates, elaborates, elucidates... life unfolds and tango has a way of exposing our soul Connections....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-49757255865868364082014-02-04T10:35:47.187-06:002014-02-04T10:35:47.187-06:00What in one culture is silly may not be so in anot...What in one culture is silly may not be so in another. Although the culture that produced tango is often not fully understood by people outside of that culture, the fact that tango becomes a global phenomenon suggests that people worldwide are rethinking of their own values. The gap between the newly found attraction and old habit may affect how tango is danced in different cultures for a while, but eventually the culture that produced tango will triumph, because that is what makes tango unmatched.Paul Yanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10850021582471988048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-21130184689375843142014-01-27T15:34:43.614-06:002014-01-27T15:34:43.614-06:00I enjoy the blog extremely and have many similar o...I enjoy the blog extremely and have many similar observations and feelings about tango. However beeing a woman and dancing in Poland I can only say that where I am many of the abovementioned examples of "wispers" would be considered at leat silly if not inapropriate or irrespective. At least that is what I can say from my own experience... but what do I know ;) .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-62425702311722277692013-11-11T11:07:53.710-06:002013-11-11T11:07:53.710-06:00Intriguing subject!
Sincerely I've never used...Intriguing subject! <br />Sincerely I've never used any of the above phrases, and I don't think to use them. They are too confidential, romantic and...rhetoric. They represent what to use for approaching a woman you are interested to. But I go to milonga only to dance tango.<br />I'm single and I think that this is a preferred condition. When I dance with a woman I think that she is with/for me for a tanda, and I have to protect, to enjoy her, to surprise her (if possible). If she is mentally free it's possible to communicate and deepen our dance, and elaborate our own tango, different from the other tango I can dance. Of course only if she wants. <br />If I was engaged I'd have fighting thoughts in my mind during the dance and this is not good for Tango. Sadly I've noticed the different way to dance of some women after their engagement (someone disappears...).<br />Thank you and ciao.<br />Stefanonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-62722087613140944322013-03-18T22:33:29.867-05:002013-03-18T22:33:29.867-05:00Hi Anonymous, when I said “tango requires romantic...Hi Anonymous, when I said “tango requires romanticism,” I do not mean one has to have a romantic feeling toward one’s partner. I was referring to one’s ability to be imaginative and emotional in the dance. You don’t have to have a romantic feeling to dance tango, but if you dance tango emotionlessly, I don’t think that can still be called tango. You just use your partner to do gymnastics. Please forgive me for not publishing your answer because I prefer not to use this space as a forum. But I do appreciate your inspiring comments. Thank you!Paul Yanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10850021582471988048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-34884943338841291052013-03-18T01:52:28.805-05:002013-03-18T01:52:28.805-05:00Hi Anonymous, I think your question is whether it ...Hi Anonymous, I think your question is whether it is moral for you to enjoy decent intimacy in tango with men other than your husband? Or, is there such thing as decent intimacy? If you believe any physical contact with men other than your husband is indecent and only your husband may touch you, then you should stop dancing—and not just dancing, but also hugging or shaking hands with other men, or seeing a male doctor who is not your husband. If you believe shaking hands or seeing a doctor is okay, then why dancing tango is not? And why just men? If your thought were dirty, you could be dirty with anyone. If you have a clear conscience, then why a decent and healthy social activity makes you feel morally uneasy? I am amazed by the logic of such hypocrisy that tries to deprive you of the fun that millions of married and unmarried women are enjoying. Nobody can judge you except yourself. Only you know whether tango is good (including morally good) for you. PaulPaul Yanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10850021582471988048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-17742527372542622282013-03-16T16:20:54.474-05:002013-03-16T16:20:54.474-05:00Hi Paul, I like to read your tango blog. I wonder...Hi Paul, I like to read your tango blog. I wonder if you can write something that reflect my situation. I am a married woman. I have good relationship with my husband. My husband and I started learning tango together but he soon dropped out because he had no time and is not addicted. My husband is very supportive of me dancing tango. However, I don't feel comfortable that I enjoy it so much. I avoid "romanticism". This doesn't seem to hurt the quality of my dance because I am "musical", but I do have inner struggle all along. I wonder if you know how others resolve this issue. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3819457662362650663.post-48412988067512104012013-03-04T15:23:18.624-06:002013-03-04T15:23:18.624-06:00I am very new to tango and haven’t gone to a milon...I am very new to tango and haven’t gone to a milonga yet but wow! I thought the height of intimacy was when my partner whispered "Yes" softly when I followed him during our dance class. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com