March 4, 2025

Maintaining Shoulder Parallelism


Milonguero-style tango, known for its close embrace, emphasizes inward experiences over outward display. This style requires partners to keep their shoulders parallel to maintain chest-to-chest contact, ensuring the deepest possible physical connection and the clearest torso communication.

Many dancers underestimate the importance of shoulder alignment. Some women drift too far to the man’s right, wrapping their left arm around his back instead of positioning themselves squarely in front of him with their arm resting gently over his right shoulder. This misalignment weakens the connection, overburdens his right arm, and restricts its range of motion and flexibility necessary for leading. Others connect with only one side of their torso, leaving the other side open and forming a V-shape with their partner. Beginners who feel uncomfortable with close contact often lean back to create distance. Many rotate their entire body instead of dissociating at the hips, breaking shoulder parallelism. Some tilt their shoulders vertically in relation to their partner’s, or even stand next to him instead of maintaining chest-to-chest, square contact. These physical distortions are often exacerbated by men who lead overly complex figures, compelling women to abandon alignment in order to execute difficult steps. All of these habits undermine the intimacy and sensitivity that define milonguero tango—disrupting the embrace, clouding communication, and weakening the dance’s compact, cohesive aesthetic.

The milonguero style of tango is not about dazzling footwork or showy choreography; it is about channeling the music and emotions through intimate, grounded, physical interaction. Maintaining shoulder parallelism and chest contact is central to this experience. It enables both partners to remain attuned to each other and to the music, allowing the dance to flow from feeling rather than effort. To access this level of connection and expression, dancers—especially beginners—must overcome cultural inhibitions and the impulse to perform. Only then can they truly embrace the soulful, comforting nature of the dance.




From a technical standpoint, body awareness and physical flexibility are key to preserving shoulder alignment. The close embrace relies heavily on dissociation: the ability to rotate the lower body independently while keeping the upper body stable and connected (see Dissociation and the Gear Effect). Mastering this technique is essential—not only for maintaining alignment, but also for sustaining connection, enabling communication, and unlocking greater creative freedom of the legs.

Men, in particular, should avoid leading unnecessarily complex or overly challenging movements that compromise the embrace. Most disruptions in shoulder alignment arise from attempting figures that exceed the body’s natural capacity for dissociation. The hips can only rotate so far before shoulder parallelism is lost. While occasional misalignment is inevitable, men should refrain from leading steps that demand excessive hip rotation, and women should focus on maintaining shoulder alignment when performing the movement.

In short, maintaining shoulder parallelism and chest contact is essential to experiencing the full depth, warmth, and authenticity of close-embrace tango. These elements nurture the dance’s intimacy, sensuality, and emotional resonance while also refining its aesthetic elegance. Shoulder alignment is not a minor technical point—it is the physical and emotional core of the embrace. To truly embody tango milonguero, dancers must unlearn habits that disrupt connection—whether rooted in cultural discomfort, self-consciousness, or the desire to impress—and instead cultivate the sensitivity, technique, and trust that lie at the heart of this profoundly human dance (see Contra Body Movement and Dissociation).







February 5, 2025

Beauty Will Save the World


Tango’s beauty beckons, drawing many into its intimate embrace. As dancers learn, they cultivate artistic discernment, hone aesthetic sensibilities, and refine posture and movement with intention. In this pursuit of elegance, they infuse grace into themselves, their lives, and the world around them, creating an environment where beauty flourishes.

Despite this devotion to beauty, however, there is often a paradox within the tango community. Many dancers, while graceful on the dance floor, show less flattering sides of human nature in their interactions with others. Indifference, unfriendliness, arrogance, and a tendency to show off are not uncommon. Some may even go out of their way to exclude others or stoke rivalry. Such behavior stands in stark contrast to the elegance that tango embodies, creating a dissonance between the beauty of the dance and the demeanor of its practitioners.

True beauty is not confined to the aesthetics of appearance. It is rooted in integrity, encompassing the way we treat others, the kindness we show, and the respect we give to fellow dancers. Real beauty is not just performed; it penetrates deeper into our character. A dancer who appears elegant in movement but treats others with disdain fails to capture the spirit of tango. Genuine beauty lies in the harmony between outer expression and inner values.

Dostoevsky once wrote, "Beauty will save the world." This profound statement speaks to the transformative power of beauty, not just in art but in life itself. The pursuit of beauty inspires people to combat all forms of ugliness—be it cruelty, arrogance, or indifference—and to strive for a better world. Immersing ourselves in the beauty of tango should encourage us to carry that beauty into every aspect of our lives.

Tango dancers have a unique opportunity to lead by example. By committing to personal growth and aligning our behavior with the grace we express through dance, we help close the gap between the art we practice and the people we are. It begins with self-awareness and a sincere effort to embody the values that tango represents. When we approach others with kindness, humility, and respect, we not only elevate our own experience—we also help create a more welcoming and beautiful community for everyone.

Ultimately, the beauty of tango lies not only in the dance itself, but in the people who dance it. By striving to become better human beings, tango dancers can inspire one another and contribute to a world that reflects the very essence of this dance of love. The beauty of tango is not limited to what we do on the dance floor; it is a lifelong journey toward making ourselves and the world as beautiful as the dance we cherish.



January 14, 2025

Contra Body Movement and Dissociation


I didn’t fully appreciate the importance of contra body movement (CBM) until I watched the video below. Although the video focuses on ballroom dancing, I believe tango dancers can also benefit from its insights.




CBM is a fundamental principle in dance that involves rotating one side of the torso toward the opposite moving leg. For example, when the right leg steps forward, the left side of the torso naturally turns toward it, and vice versa. This counterbalancing action is not unique to dance—it occurs in many everyday movements. When walking or running, a slight torso rotation toward the forward-moving leg enhances stability and forward momentum. Swimmers use CBM to streamline their strokes, while cyclists rely on it for balance and power. These examples highlight how CBM is deeply ingrained in natural human movement.

In ballroom dancing, CBM is often most visible in the shoulder rotations. Because dancers maintain a fixed frame with their arms, the coordinated shoulder movement becomes a pronounced expression of CBM. Unlike in natural, everyday movements, however, ballroom dancers exaggerate this rotation to enhance artistry. A well-executed CBM creates movements that appear balanced, fluid, and visually striking.

A related but distinct concept appears in tango, where maintaining shoulder alignment—especially during dissociative movements—is crucial. Whether dancers are walking side by side, turning around one another, zigzagging, or changing positions from one side of the partner to the other, they must keep their shoulders parallel to maintain connection. While ballroom dancers use CBM (upper-body rotation) to achieve this alignment, tango dancers rely more heavily on dissociation—rotating the lower body independently of the upper body. Because tango is danced in a close embrace, the torsos remain closely connected, and dancers must rotate at the hips to navigate around each other. This ability to dissociate while keeping the upper body aligned preserves the inward-focus connection that defines tango.




Furthermore, maintaining shoulder parallelism enhances the cohesion and harmony of movement. As demonstrated in the video below, when dancers maintain this alignment, their movement appears more intimate, cohesive, and visually refined than when they do not. Sometimes dancers compromise on shoulder parallelism primarily for the sake of movement, but when this tendency dominates the dance, tango loses its essence.




Effective coordination in tango hinges on the dancers’ suppleness and responsiveness. Stiffness and tension obstruct harmony, impeding the natural flow of energy rather than directing it. In contrast, flexibility and relaxation foster intuitive responses between partners, enhancing artistry and seamless cooperation. In partnered dance, yielding, adapting, and going with the flow are essential. A supple body, combined with the ability to rotate through the torso or dissociate at the hips, allows dancers to move fluidly together while preserving an uninterrupted connection.

Ultimately, dancers must harmonize technical precision with attunement to their partner. Mastering CBM and dissociation transcends mere technical proficiency—it unlocks deeper connection, fluid communication, and heightened artistic expression. By refining these techniques, dancers can craft performances that are not only visually striking but also rich in emotional depth and resonance.