Balance and Lightness

The sensation produced by changes in the body's position and movement is known as the sense of equilibrium. This sense is governed by the semicircular canals and vestibule in the inner ear. When these organs are impaired—due to illness, medication, or alcohol abuse—balance becomes difficult to maintain. Fortunately, balance can be improved with practice. Gymnasts perform challenging routines on a balance beam. Acrobats depend on finely tuned equilibrium to walk the high wire. Likewise, dancers develop a refined sense of balance that allows them to execute complex movements with control and grace.

All tango dancers require a good sense of equilibrium, but this is especially crucial for the woman. The man leads her by slightly shifting her body in the intended direction, but how far she moves is determined by her own ability to maintain balance. If she steps outside her stable range, she risks falling. A falling woman relies on the man for support—making herself feel heavy. While this reliance enhances intimacy, constantly clinging to or tightly gripping the partner can be burdensome. The key to remain light is maintaining one’s own balance. Those who habitually rely on their partner’s support may never fully develop their equilibrium.

Tango introduces a unique challenge because the partners lean into each other for balance, forming an A-shaped frame—a mutually supportive structure. A novice woman may not realize that her role in maintaining this frame is as important as the man’s. If she leans back, she may pull him off balance. This is especially common with women who are uncomfortable with close physical contact.

Conversely, some women lean too much on the man and feel heavy. Dancing in a leaned posture requires strong back muscles. A woman with a weak back may struggle to maintain this position, especially if the man holds her low or tightly. Experienced dancers apply a balanced resistance to the forces from their partner—meeting the man's chest pressure outward and arm tension inward with symmetrical control. Too much resistance, however, can make the woman feel heavy. Balance in dance means maintaining stillness, moving at a constant speed in a straight or curved line—not engaging in a tug of war. A woman must be mindful of how much resistance she applies to avoid becoming a burden.

Inexperienced dancers rely entirely on the man to drive them. Lacking confidence or technique, they may hesitate or grip tightly with their arms and hands, which contributes to heaviness. To feel light, a woman must be self-activated rather than passively moved. Skilled dancers achieve this by using the strength of their standing leg to propel themselves, much like a self-propelled lawnmower—allowing them to feel light. Still, it’s important to strike a balance between being active and remaining receptive to the lead. A woman who moves too independently can make her partner feel like she is dancing on her own.

Men also have responsibilities when it comes to balance and lightness. They should avoid pressing down on the woman's waist, as this can restrict her movement. A tall man dancing with a shorter partner should lead with his stomach rather than bending his torso, which can force her bend backward—especially difficult if she lacks core strength. As a woman's strength and balance improve, she may be able to handle more pressure and lean more into the man to expand her movement range, even inviting support at the waist. However, men should be cautious about imitating the techniques they see advanced couples use. What works for experienced dancers may not suit every partner. Tango offers many variations; the best approach is always the one that suits both partners' abilities and comfort.

Why People Dance Tango

The reason we dance tango is deeply tied to the somber side of life. Some people claim they dance tango because they like tango music—yet music can be enjoyed at home. Others say they appreciate the elegance of the movements—but that can be found in other dance forms as well. Some argue they are drawn to the unrestrained nature of tango—but martial arts could provide similar satisfaction. Others highlight the artistic challenges of tango—though ballet arguably sets an even higher standard. If these were the only reasons people danced tango, then tango itself might not exist—because there are countless alternatives.

Tango triumphs for a unique reason. While most dances are created to celebrate life, tango serves a different purpose. It was born from the sorrows of the less fortunate, offering them a refuge. They do not come to the milonga to show off, but to expose their vulnerability and seek solace. Tango allows them to dance through their loneliness, homesickness, nostalgia, and grief. It offers a shoulder to lean on, a sanctuary for their wounds, a way to quench their thirst for love, and a chance to touch and be touched by another human being.

These are ordinary people—poor individuals, immigrants, construction workers, waiters, waitresses, shop assistants, maids, and taxi drivers. They may lack splendor in appearance, but you feel their authenticity when you dance with them. Their embrace is warm and consoling, their feelings sincere and profound, their hearts sensitive and compassionate, their movements raw and infectious, and their dance sentimental and affectionate. Tango is their catharsis of suffering, agony, yearning, and hope. Its intimate, soulful, sensual, and comforting nature reflects and fulfills their deep, innate human needs. This is the tango still danced in less affluent societies like Argentina and Uruguay.

Not everyone shares these needs, of course. The successful, the affluent, the arrogant, the superficial—they may admire the beauty of tango but fail to embrace its deeper purpose. Instead, they use tango to celebrate their lives, glorify their successes, flaunt their style, display their egos, and boast of their superiority. The traditional tango is too modest for them, so they make changes—opening up the embrace, inventing fancy steps, incorporating ostentatious tricks, and using exotic music. As a result, they created a showy version of tango that looks flashy but feels hollow. This kind of tango has now become the trend in opulent societies like ours.

Tango has weathered many challenges in the past, and it will survive this one as well, I believe. Needs, desires, yearnings, loneliness, love, interdependence, tenderness, sentimentality, and romanticism are intrinsic to human nature, even among the toughest individuals. The less fortunate people are particularly vulnerable, which is why they created tango. This may also explain why milongas are more crowded during difficult times than in prosperous ones, why more women dance tango than men, and why the revival of tango happens now when there are more travelers, immigrants and refugees in the world than ever before.

Tango will always be the dance of the lonely, homesick, nostalgic, needy, vulnerable, sentimental, and romantic. Fortunate people need tango too, provided they are not blinded by their success and arrogance. After all, we are human, and tango is for everyone who seeks to reconnect with their humanity.

Cadencia

Beginners often equate stepping on the beat with dancing to the music, but tango demands much more. Cadencia—the rhythmic sway of the body in harmony with the music—is equally essential. As a foundational skill to tango, cadencia shapes the dancer’s expression and fluidity, yet it is frequently overlooked.

To develop cadencia, you must first master the art of swinging your leg. Begin by lifting your hip on the free-leg side until the leg hangs loose, able to move like a pendulum. Keep both the knee and ankle straight so the leg maintains a long, graceful line as it swings. Now, rather than thinking of your leg starting at the hip, visualize it extending from your chest—everything below the chest can be swung as a whole like a pendulum. Since the chest is your connection point with your partner, he can use it as a fixed point to swing your body. This approach not only makes your leg appear longer but also enhances your overall posture, creating a taller, more elegant presence.

Swinging the body is akin to swinging a three-section cudgel, where motion flows seamlessly through linked segments. The movement starts with the torso, which propels the hip and ultimately drives the leg. In essence, cadencia is a chain reaction. Novices often engage their thigh to move the leg, prioritizing the step over the swing—an approach that eliminates true cadencia. To generate cadencia, initiate the movement with your torso, allowing it to naturally propel the hip and leg. Maintain an upright and resilient posture to achieve a controlled, pendulum-like motion, avoiding the flutter of a loose ribbon.

The swing moves laterally, yet many students focus solely on the vertical action of stepping, overlooking the side-to-side motion. To cultivate cadencia, you must direct your attention to the body's lateral movement, generating a pulsating rhythm with each step—akin to the surging of ocean swells. Each surge propels the body into a swing, and as momentum shifts, it reverses into the opposite swing. This continuous, wave-like motion—like gliding back and forth on a playground swing—is what cadencia feels like.

Cadencia is a collaborative effort, initiated by the man. Whether the follower’s body swings in time with the music depends partly on the lead. Often, the woman fails to step on the beat because her body is led into swinging too little or too much, too slowly or too quickly, preventing her foot from landing naturally on the beat. An experienced man generates just the right amount of swing to ensure the woman’s foot lands exactly on the beat. Likewise, a skilled woman times the swing of her body to the music as well. She does her part to complement the lead.

While cadencia is used in both social tango and performance, it is primarily a social tango technique, aiming to enhance the sensual pleasure of the dance rather than creating a visual impression. Both partners must possess matching musicality and balance control to swing together—a skill that requires adequate training. Yet once mastered, the sensation of two connected bodies swinging in perfect harmony with the music transforms the dance into something infinitely more pleasurable. (See Cadencia and the Flow of Tango.)

The following video illustrates this technique:

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Cadencia - the pendulum effect

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Tango Is a Language (II)

To communicate effectively, you need to speak the same language. If you speak a different dialect, adopt an unfamiliar accent, or use self-invented words, communication becomes difficult. The same issue also poses a challenge to tango. Different leaders often lead the same step differently, and different followers respond in varying ways to the same lead. Leaders complain that followers aren’t following properly, while followers blame unclear signals. These happen often because dancers do not share a common tango language.

Many students fail to appreciate the importance of standardization. They overlook fundamentals, dismiss instructions, and ignore established standards. This tendency is especially pronounced among those who adopt unconventional approaches or seek to dance in ways that diverge from traditional tango. Some teachers also contribute to the confusion by introducing self-invented, nonstandard steps that are ill-suited for social dancing. While such innovations may be effective on stage, where routines are rehearsed with fixed partners, they cause serious problems in the milonga, where partners are randomly paired. In social settings, successful communication and harmonious improvisation hinge on adhering to shared standards. Without these common standards, dancers struggle to achieve coherence, unity, and harmony.

Social media further complicates tango's fragmented language. Many students mistakenly assume that performances they see online represent the standard. Yet most of these exhibitions are theatrical renditions of tango, differing significantly from the tango danced in milongas (see Social Tango and Performance Tango).

The tango most commonly danced in milongas is social tango, particularly the milonguero style. This grassroots form continues to thrive in Buenos Aires, attracting tango enthusiasts from around the world who come to experience tango in its native environment—at over two hundred milongas across the city. Regardless of what tango "language" you speak at home, a visit to Buenos Aires makes one thing clear: theirs is the true language of tango. If social tango is to become an international dance, it must adopt the language of Buenos Aires as its standard.

We can draw insight from the lessons of some other languages. The Chinese language, for instance, evolved into many regional dialects due to geographical separation, making communication challenging between people from different regions. Over the past century, efforts have been made to promote a standard national dialect. This goal has only been partially accomplished in recent decades, thanks to the widespread use of Mandarin in media broadcasting and school education. However, despite progress, many rural areas still speak local dialects that outsiders cannot understand.

If you're studying Chinese, you want to learn Mandarin, not a regional dialect. Similarly, if you're learning tango, you want to study Argentine tango—not Finnish tango or American tango. If your goal is to dance in milongas, you should focus on social tango, particularly the milonguero style danced in Buenos Aires—not a self-invented, localized variation practiced only within a university campus in North America. Some of these campus communities are relatively isolated, rarely interacting with other tango circles or inviting external instructors. As a result, they develop their own tango "dialects" that are unfamiliar to the broader tango community.

Likewise, foreigners visiting Buenos Aires often struggle to dance with locals because the styles they learned at home are different from the locals'. As tango spreads globally, the risk of it fragmenting into multiple "dialects" grows. Without careful attention to a common standard, we risk repeating the story of the Chinese language.

Here is how Argentinians dance tango in their milongas.

Social Tango and Performance Tango

The more I reflect on the challenges facing tango today, the more I recognize the importance of distinguishing between social tango and performance tango. Advocates of performance tango often argue, “Why draw a line? They are all tango. The tango is one.” But that’s simply not true. Social tango and performance tango are fundamentally different forms of dance, each with its own distinct purpose. They differ in nearly every respect: structure, embrace, appearance, feeling, steps, techniques, methods of leading and following, and underlying philosophy (see Three Theories of Leading in Argentine Tango). Any definition that fits one inevitably excludes the other. In fact, those who have learned only one form cannot dance the other without additional training. Instead of promoting performance tango to beginners, it is better to be honest so that students understand what they are truly getting into.

Social tango is a popular dance form designed to suit the tastes, needs, and abilities of ordinary people. It is a spontaneous and improvisational dance, typically danced in a close embrace with substantial physical contact, fulfilling a deep human desire for connection and intimacy. It is danced for personal pleasure in the milongas, guided by the milonga codes. While incorporating technical and aesthetic elements, its steps are simple, allowing dancers to focus on inner experiences—emotions, feelings, intimacy, comfort, and connection. Dancing social tango is a deeply personal and soulful experience. What matters is how it feels, not how it looks (see Highbrowism and Populism in Tango).

Performance tango, by contrast, is a highbrow dance form created for the stage. It is a theatrical rendition of tango, featuring intricate choreography and advanced techniques suited for trained professionals. Unlike improvisational social tango, performance tango is choreographed and rehearsed, typically danced in an open hold to enable expansive movements. Its steps are wide, elaborate, and often dangerous, requiring ample space. It is not intended to provide an intimate, soulful, or personal experience, but to showcase flashy figures and dazzling movements to entertain an audience. This form of tango does not adhere to the milonga codes and is ill-suited for crowded dance floors. Safety, comfort, and user-friendliness are not its priorities. What matters is how it looks, not how it feels.

I believe learning performance tango—especially before mastering social tango—is not in the best interest of most students. It is a waste of their time and money for several reasons. For one, very few students aspire to become stage performers. Without a strong foundation in social tango, meaningful performance is also unattainable. Moreover, the habits acquired from learning performance tango—such as relying on arms and hands to lead and follow, neglecting meaningful communication through direct torso connection, emphasizing appearance over feeling, ignoring the comfort and safety of others, and using difficult or dangerous movements—can hinder one’s enjoyment of social tango and create disturbances in the milonga.

For the vast majority of students, social tango should be the focus of their learning. This is because their goal is to dance in milongas for enjoyment, not on stage to entertain an audience. They need a user-friendly dance that suits their abilities, not a difficult and inaccessible form. They seek connection and intimacy, not a showy, uncomfortable display of ego. Furthermore, developing proficiency in social tango provides a solid foundation if they ever decide to pursue performance.

In the United States, the blending of social tango and performance tango has caused numerous problems in our milongas. In Buenos Aires, the two forms are distinct. Social tango is danced in the milongas, while performance tango is reserved for the stage (see The Styles of Tango). Professional performers who dance performance tango on stage exclusively dance social tango when attending milongas. Teachers in Buenos Aires are transparent about what they teach—those who teach social tango specify it as such, and those who teach performance tango make that clear as well. They do not “hang up a sheep’s head to sell dog meat.” Separate competitions are organized for each form. I believe this separation is how tango should be handled everywhere.