Tango is not just a fascinating dance—it is a rich philosophy, culture, and way of life. The search of tango is the search of connection, love, fellowship, unity, harmony, and beauty—an idealism that is not consistent with the dehumanizing reality of the modern world. The world divides us into individuals, but tango brings us together as a team. In tango we are not individualists, feminists, nationalists, Democrats, or Republicans—we are simply human, intertwined and interdependent. Tango invites us to tear down walls, build bridges, and rediscover our shared humanity through connection, cooperation, accommodation, and compromise. It is a dance that reminds the world how to love.
March 11, 2017
For Milongueras
To me, "milonguera" is an honorary title for a tango woman, even though she is not a professional performer but just a social dancer. Dancing with a milonguera is a rare pleasure because she dances for her partner, not for herself. Her skill allows her to focus entirely on him, ensuring harmony and connection. With a well-trained body and years of experience, she maintains fluidity and cohesion, even in the most intricate movements. Her refined musicality transforms every dance into an indulgence.
A milonguera has transcended the narrowness of egocentric ideologies like individualism and feminism. She understands that tango is a partnership, where true gratification comes from cooperation and shared experience. Her joy is intertwined with her partner’s; she knows that unless he is happy, she cannot be. Therefore, she gives him her undivided attention, just as he does to her. Tango is an altruistic dance, and a milonguera is, above all, an altruist.
A milonguera connects to her partner by leaning into him with a gentle yet firm pressure of her chest against his, attuned to the subtle signals of his torso. She elongates her body as if she were a taut violin string, ready to vibrate at his slightest touch. With her head resting tenderly on his cheek, she remains weightless—relaxed, pliable, and fully present in his arms. Her balance is impeccable, with her weight grounded on the ball of her foot while maintaining stability through her entire stance. Her right hand rests lightly in his left, while her left arm hooks over his right shoulder, securing a solid connection. Yet, she never relies on him for balance, making her feel remarkably light (see Raul Cabral, Driving and Synchronization).
A milonguera dances beautifully, but for her, tango is not a performance—it is an expression of music and emotion. Steps are merely the medium through which she connects, communicates, and nurtures her partner’s experience. They are a part of what makes tango an intimate, introspective, soulful, and deeply comforting dance.
Her body is so well-trained that she moves freely, never disrupting the embrace or causing discomfort. The way she twists in his arms is subtly sensual, awakening his senses. Her ability to dissociate her upper and lower body ensures that even the most complex maneuvers feel seamless and natural. For her, tango is an act of devotion—she pampers the man in her arms, using her honed femininity to bring him joy.
She has spent at least ten to fifteen years immersed in tango, amassing a wealth of knowledge and experience. Her mastery is such that she dances instinctively, without needing to think about the steps, allowing her to focus entirely on her partner. She knows every nuance that brings him pleasure—caressing him with her body, letting her chest glide against his as she swivels her hips, massaging his chest with her breasts in ocho cortado, enveloping him in molinete, and entwining her leg with his in sacada. She is a master of the art of seduction.
A milonguera knows the music inside and out. She knows the story behind every tango. She knows how to express the emotions of each song with her every move. She becomes moody when the music is melancholic, passionate when it is fiery, sentimental when it turns wistful, and tender when it softens. She accelerates, pauses, syncopates, and suspends her motion as the music dictates. She embodies the sentiment of the melody so profoundly that dancing with her feels like dancing with the music itself—a pure and harmonious experience.
Well-versed in the world of the milonga, a milonguera follows its codes with ease. She upholds standards of etiquette—personal hygiene, elegant attire, proper seating, mirada, cabeceo, and all the subtle rules that govern the dance floor (see Milonga Codes). She is polite, charming, and approachable. She greets and respects everyone, making no one feel excluded. She never exudes an attitude that deters potential partners; instead, she radiates warmth and appreciation, ensuring that men feel valued in her presence. Milonga codes have been a part of her life for so long that they become second nature to her, ingrained in her very being.
She may have once been individualistic, independent, even arrogant or aggressive. She may have started tango with the same imperfections and misconceptions as many others. But tango has transformed her, refining her into a rare and treasured marvel—a milonguera, beloved by all who dance with her.
P.S.
I've just returned from Newport News Encuentro, one of the milonguero gatherings I have enjoyed. The women that I danced with in that event inspired me to write something about them. My special thanks to Liga Losseva, Sherry Chou, Olimpia Stein, Eva VonEsse, Flo Woodreuff, Yemiko Yagui, Marina Aleshker, Sandra Angel, Emily Mooney, Shirley Putnam, Gloria Swindoll, Pamela Ruth, and many others whose names I don't know or remember. Special thanks also to Andy Stein, the organizer of the event, and to Raul Cabral, whose writings are always an inspiration and whose appreciation for milonguera women I deeply share.
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