Tango is not only a fascinating dance, but also a fascinating idea, philosophy, culture, and lifestyle. In many ways, tango is a metaphor of life. The pursuit of tango is the pursuit of connection, love, unity, beauty, harmony and humanity, i.e., an idealism that is not consistent with the dehumanizing reality of the modern world. The world divides us as individuals, but tango unites us as a people. In tango we are not individualists, feminists, nationalists, liberals, conservatives, Democrats, Republicans, etc., but interconnected and interdependent members of the human family. Tango calls us to tear down the walls, to build bridges, and to regain humanity through connection, cooperation, reconciliation and compromise. If you share this conviction, please join the conversation and let your voice be heard, which is urgently needed and long overdue.

Together we can awaken the world.

July 19, 2012

Original Is Beautiful

Tango Nuevo is out of fashion now. The new trend is the competition tango in salon style. When this style first came out, it was refreshing. So, many people copy it. They all walk the same way, pause the same way, turn the same way, and move the same way - with elegant postures and refined footwork, but little originality and personality, like they all come out of the same mold. The following is an example.

I came across some video clips of Argentine folk dances, which, in comparison to the sterile type of the modern tango, I found fresh and original. We can see the connection between these folk dances and tango. Unfortunately, the contemporary tango is more and more stylized. I wish it retained more of such originality, simplicity and freshness.

In the dances of the old milongueros, we still find the same originality, simplicity and freshness. The milongueros do not copy others because they don’t dance for impression, but for pleasure. In fact they don’t care much about how they look, they just dance their feelings about the music. Every milonguero has his own unique style, which may be raw, but never boring.

True beauty is original, effortless, elegant with ease, graceful yet natural, beautiful without pretension. It is the outflow of one’s inner quality, talent, personality and beauty, not an imitation.

July 10, 2012

The Art of Love

One of the most important rules in tango is not to blame, criticize or teach your dance partner. Milongueros follow this code strictly because they know the consequence. Recently, two of my students had a big fight. It started out of perhaps a very good intention to help. She said something about his leading. He defended himself and said something about her following. The conversation escalated to insults and ended up with two broken hearts. They perhaps will not dance with each other again.

Learning tango is like learning a language, and it takes about as long. (See Tango Is a Language (I).) Anyone less than five years in tango is a novice. Novices are the most frustrated people. They want to dance tango well but don’t know how. There are so many things they don’t know, including rules and manners. (See Milonga Codes.) Every one of them has loads of problems, and they all have opinions on each other. Experienced dancers don’t dance with them. So they stick with and blame each other for their own problems. The irony of “the pot calls the kettle black” is that they are two of a kind. When one blames the other for being stiff, the other is likely thinking the same. By the time they have learned the steps, feelings are hurt and relationships broken.

Beginners often don’t realize that, whether you like it or not, the people learning tango with you are the most important people in your tango life. You will likely dance with them for a long time. There are only limited people in each tango community. These are the people called together by fate. It’s better to accept each other and allow each other time to improve. (See 惜缘.) In real life, if you like someone you say how beautiful she is. If you tell her she is ugly, she will not go out with you. You do the same in tango if you want to dance with someone. Always say good things about one’s dance even if you are asked for an honest opinion. How many husbands are kicked out of the bed after giving their wives their honest opinion? Remember, tango is not just a dance. It is the art of love.

Robert Farris Thompson said in his book, Tango, the Art History of Love, that tango “is the dance that teaches the world to love.” The idea of tango is to welcome another person into your personal space, to accept that person, to surrender, to let go your ego, to listen to the inner voice and feelings of that person, to be considerate, cooperative, yielding and adaptive, to enjoy the intimacy, to be one with that person, and to give comfort, pleasure and love. It is a different idea from what our culture stands for, that is, individualism, independence, self-interests, and aggression. Hopefully, tango will make us a better person who treats others with respect, appreciation and attentiveness, accepts others as who they are, and puts others, instead of oneself, at the center of one’s life and dance. Until then, we are not qualified as tango dancers, and cannot dance well anyway. (See Tango Is a Relationship.)