Tango is not only a fascinating dance, but also a fascinating culture, idea, lifestyle, and philosophy. In many ways, tango is a metaphor of life. The pursuit of tango is the pursuit of connection, love, beauty, harmony and humanity, i.e., an idealism that is not consistent with the dehumanizing reality of the modern world. The world divides us as individuals, but tango unites us as a species. In tango we are not individualists, feminists, nationalists, liberals, conservatives, Democrats, Republicans, etc., but interconnected and interdependent members of the human family. We are humanists. Tango calls us to tear down the walls, to build bridges, and to regain humanity through connection, cooperation and compromise. If you believe in this, please join the conversation and let your voice be heard, which is urgently needed and long overdue.

Together we can awaken the world.




July 14, 2017

Love


We use the word love to express many different feelings: To love a country is to feel deeply attached to the country. To love tango is to be fascinated by and addicted to the dance. To love a child is to adore the child. To love a friend is to appreciate and feel agreeable, comfortable and close to that friend. To love someone with superior intelligence, talent, character, or physical attributes is to hold great respect, admiration and reverence for that person. To love someone of the opposite gender is to be sexually attracted to and want to marry and have children with him or her.

None of the above alone completely expresses the true meaning of love. True love is a combination of all these feelings. It is the deepest appreciation, attraction, attachment, admiration, adoration, veneration and affection for someone for whom you are willing to give up everything. True love is altruist. It has no ego and pride. It is patient, kind and generous. It trusts, surrenders, devotes, obeys, gives, supports, yields, tolerates, endures, forgives and protects, just as in tango. However, for love to work, it must be reciprocal. Love is a relationship, in which each partner must do his/her part in order to bring out the best of the other. The synergy of love will cease if the interactions stop; therefore, it should not be taken for granted, just as in tango.

Another truth about love is: men and women have different expectations of love. Men are strong and goal-oriented. For men, love means to provide and give - more in a physical than emotional sense perhaps, and that is also how men expect from love. A man cannot feel loved if he is not appreciated, respected and revered. Women, on the other hand, are more delicate and feeling-oriented. For women, love means being adored, pampered, protected, and particularly being romantically, adventurously and heroically pursued. A woman cannot feel loved if her fantasy and emotional needs are not met. This difference between men and women often causes problems in relationships, and in tango as well. (See Activity and Passivity in Tango.) In other words, men need to learn to be more sentimental, thoughtful and attentive in their relationship with women, and women need to learn to be more appreciative, respectful and agreeable in their relationship with men. Men and women are different, and they play different roles in love, just as in tango. (See The Psychology of Tango and The Gender Roles in Tango.)

It needs to point out that, through out human history, most marriages are not love-based, but need-based. Men and women have learned to love each other, because they need each other, and for the sake of their own happiness, they have no other choice but to love each other, just as in tango. Like hatred, kindness is reciprocal, you do good to others and they will reciprocate the hospitality to you. In that sense, love is determined and persistent efforts, or the consequence of such efforts. Before individualism and feminism brainwashed us with egocentric, selfish, resentful and hateful messages, that is what people do to each other through out human history. (See The Spirit of Tango.)

The ability to love is God's best gift to humanity, which makes us better human beings, husbands, wives, parents, friends, coworkers, tango partners and citizens. Imagine a world in which people all love each other, in comparison to the world in which we are living. (See Tango Is the Search of a Dream.) Love is not only a feeling, but also a skill that needs to be studied, taught and learned. Of all the skills essential to a healthy, functional, stable and harmonious society, love perhaps is the most important one. This is true in tango also. (See Tango Is a Relationship.)

Unfortunately, our education completely ignores this. American schools are dominated by capitalism, individualism and feminism that teach young men and women to be greed, individualistic, independent, self-seeking, strong-minded, disagreeable, competitive and aggressive. The results are disastrous. According to an internal Department of Homeland Security report dated March 1, 2017, most foreign-born terrorists operating in the United States do not become radicalized until several years after entering the country. This means our own culture has contributed to the radicalization of the young minds. This culture is also the root cause of the dissension, disunity, extremism, hostility, polarization, antagonism, uncooperativeness and dysfunction in our governments, and the rapacity, intolerance, hatred, tension, brokenness, divorce, crime and violence in our society today.

In American history, nothing has done more harms to our society than narrow-minded radical ideologies that teach people to be greed, selfish, disagreeable, resentful and antagonistic. This country is desperately in need of love, and tango, a dance that teaches people to love. (See The Art of Love.)

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