Tango is not just a fascinating dance—it is a rich philosophy, culture, and way of life. The search of tango is the search of connection, love, fellowship, unity, harmony, and beauty—an idealism that is not consistent with the dehumanizing reality of the modern world. The world divides us into individuals, but tango brings us together as a team. In tango we are not individualists, feminists, nationalists, Democrats, or Republicans—we are simply human, intertwined and interdependent. Tango invites us to tear down walls, build bridges, and rediscover our shared humanity through connection, cooperation, accommodation, and compromise. It is a dance that reminds the world how to love.



December 17, 2017

Partner-Centered Leading vs. Self-Centered Leading


Leaders in tango can be either self-centered or partner-centered. A partner-centered leader dances for his partner, guiding her with thoughtfulness, gentleness, patience, and attentiveness. In contrast, a self-centered leader prioritizes his own performance, often pushing his partner beyond her comfort zone.

For example, a self-centered leader might lead his partner into overly large steps, whereas a partner-centered leader would break them into smaller, more manageable ones. He may urge her to chase the beats, while a partner-centered leader allows her the time to complete each step gracefully. He might impose arbitrary figures to showcase his own prowess, whereas a partner-centered leader opts for simple steps that highlight her natural elegance. Finally, a self-centered leader may use his partner as a mere complement to his own exhibition, while a partner-centered leader accommodates, pampers, and elevates her—ensuring she remains the true focal point of the dance.

Here is an example of self-centered leading.




In this example, the man was preoccupied with executing routines, failing to highlight the woman’s natural grace. He prioritized his own performance over his responsibility to ensure his partner felt comfortable and enjoyed the dance. Hastily chasing the beats, he pressured her into awkward steps and abrupt turns, disregarding the melancholic mood of the music. Consequently, his self-exhibition overshadowed her expression, diminishing the harmony of their dance.

In contrast, a partner-centered leader dances for the woman. Here is an example of partner-centered leading.




In this example, the man did not force the woman into awkward steps, as was the case in the first clip, but instead led her through simple, natural movements. He did not focus solely on his routines and neglect the music, as was the case in the first clip; rather, he allowed her to immerse herself in the music, resonate with its sentiment, and dance expressively. He did not coerce her with his arms and hands, as was the case in the first clip, but instead embraced her comfortably and led her gently and attentively with his torso.

Unlike the first clip, he led with intention, carefully maintaining her axis and using inertia to make movements effortless for her. He did not force her to rotate on a tilted axis but adjusted his own position to accommodate her natural turns. Rather than rushing her to chase the beat or execute abrupt actions, he danced at a slower pace, incorporating pauses that reflected the song's melancholic mood and allowing her the time to complete each step before initiating the next lead.

These made it possible for her to focus inwardly on her emotions and the quality of her dance. Because the woman dances around the man, she must swivel her hips and pivot her lower body on one leg to step to his side with the other. After each step, she also needs to rotate her hips back to prepare for the next movement in a different direction. This technique, known as dissociation, adds complexity to her movement and requires extra time to complete each step. The man must recognize this and provide her with the necessary time to finish each movement before initiating the next lead, as demonstrated in the video. We can tell her appreciation from the way she looked at him at the end.

Please watch the video again in playback speed 0.75 in full screen to see how beautiful a woman's dance can be when she has a good leader. I recommend using this video as a teaching tool. Every tango man, novice and veteran alike, can learn something about how to lead the woman from this video. (See The Elegance of the Mionguero Style.)



6 comments:

  1. Yes, well put, Paul. The connection between the partner-centred couple is palpable.

    I find it very hard to enjoy dancing with a self-centred leader. It feels like he's trying to make me perform HIS set of tricks, rather than really dancing WITH me. However, I suspect that some ladies may enjoy being put to the test - perhaps to show they are able to keep up with him.

    Of course, there are also ladies who dance in a self-centred way. I'm referring to ladies who feel the need to embellish, regardless of whether it fits the lead and the music; or those who move ahead of their partner in anticipation of what he might be leading.

    Could this 'self-centredness' (of men and women) be a result of inexperience? Perhaps a result of teaching which focusses on performance rather than social dancing?

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  2. These are two really good examples, thank you for putting them on show!

    It reminds me what to work on myself. The more experienced I become, the slower and more patient I am dancing. I agree with Patricia that it is a result of inexperience (and insecurity). The same applies to the ladies for embellishments and show moves.

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  3. Well I would say the big difference is the fact that the first couple does e more show dance and the second just salon dance... thus it depends whether you expect to see show or salon.....to be really precize you would have to compare 2 salon-dances......;-)

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  4. Here is another example of self-centered dance. I cannot even watch it for more than 20 seconds. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_YdCVwQ0lcc

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  5. I would say that really accomplished leaders can be centered on their partner even in open embrace and while leading more complex technical moves, take for example Jaimes Friedgen.

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  6. Who is at the center should not be limited by the style of the dance, but in a performance-oriented dance style, partner is more likely to be neglected, thus should be more vigilant.

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