We love tango in part because tango is beautiful. There is nothing wrong with that. People pursue beauty for the same reason that plants bloom. It is natural. It pleases the eye and attracts mates. It provides better chances for living things to reproduce. Beauty is a valuable quality for those who own it. Consequently, it is admired, worshiped, idolized and imitated. Cosmetics, fashions, hair styling, face-lift surgery, silicon implant and many other methods are developed to make people look beautiful. Billions and billions are spent each year for it. As a result, beauty now is no longer natural and real. It becomes artificial, perverted and delusive.
When we are obsessed with superficial things, the substance is often overlooked and problems occur. A beautiful woman may have advantages, but at the same time she may also have disadvantages. She may be spoiled, arrogant and unprepared for the tough realities in real life. She may demand more and be hard to please. A prey of men, jealousy of women and heart breaker to many admirers, she could have more enemies than she can handle. Consequently, she may become suspicious, self-protective and unfriendly. Her relationship with others could be problematic, and she may live a less tranquil life. One has to bear in mind its cost when pursuing beauty. Beauty is only a skin deep. It is neither the only thing nor the most important thing in life as well as in tango.
Just like those focusing on the external things tend to overlook the substance, people fond of fancy steps often ignore feelings. However, without the feelings tango becomes an empty show. True beauty comes from within. It lies in the shared commitment, understanding, cooperation, accommodation, agreement and harmony. If you go to Buenos Aires, you will see that is how tango is danced by the milongueros and milongueras. They don't care much about how they look. They don't do fancy steps but concentrate on the relationship and feelings, and their dance is so beautiful that it is imitated by shallow minded foreigners without understanding its essence. (See The Conceptional Beautify of Tango.)
Tango is still too young in this country. It takes maturity to overcome shallowness and understand true beauty. The more I dance with women of all ages, the more I appreciate mature women. Even in Argentina, I find that mature women are better dancers overall. Their youthful freshness is fading away, and they start to focus more on the substance rather than the superficial things. It is my hope that tango in this country, too, will overcome its shallowness and pay more attention to the substance, as our tango community becomes maturer.