We love tango in part because tango is beautiful. There is nothing wrong with that. People pursue beauty for the same reason that plants bloom and birds sing. It is natural. It pleases the eye and attracts mates. It provides better chances for living things to reproduce. Beauty is a valuable resource for those who own it. As a result, beauty is admired, worshiped, idolized and imitated. Fashion, cosmetics, silicon implant, face-lift surgery and many other methods are developed to make people look beautiful. Billions and billions are spent each year for it. Beauty now is no longer natural and real. It becomes artificial, perverted and delusive.
When people are obsessed with superficial things, the substance is overlooked and problems occur. A beautiful woman may have advantages. But at the same time she may also have disadvantages. She could be spoiled, self-centered, arrogant and unprepared for real life. She may demand more and be hard to please. A likely prey of men, envy and jealousy of other women, and heart breaker to many, she could have many enemies. Consequently, she may be overly suspicious, self-protective and unfriendly. Her relationship with others could be more problematic, and she may live a less tranquil life. One has to bear in mind its cost when pursuing beauty. Beauty is only a skin deep. It is neither the only thing nor the most important thing in life as well as in tango.
Just like those focusing on the external tend to overlook the internal, people fond of fancy steps often ignore feelings. However, without the substance the look is an empty shell. True beauty comes from within. It lies in the shared commitment, intimacy, understanding, agreement, harmony, comfort and cooperation. If you go to Buenos Aires, you will see that is how tango is danced by the milongueros and milongueras. They don't care much about how they look. They don't do fancy steps. They concentrate on the relationship and feelings, and their dance is so beautiful that it is imitated by shallow minded foreigners without understanding its essence. (See The Conceptional Beautify of Tango.)
Tango is still too young in this country. It takes maturity to overcome shallowness and understand true beauty. The more I dance with women of all ages, the more I appreciate mature women. Even in Argentina, I find that mature women are better dancers overall. Their youthful freshness is fading, and they start to focus more on the substance rather than the surface of beauty. It is my hope that tango in this country, too, will overcome its shallowness and pay more attention to the substance, as our tango community becomes maturer.