The Elegance of the Milonguero Style

In contrast to some tango styles that evoke a bustling casino, the milonguero style of tango reminds me the quiet harmony of a Zen garden—an oasis of austerity, serenity, peace and natural beauty designed for silent contemplation. This style prioritizes inner experiences, rendering outward appearances less important. It is danced with simple and natural steps, using minimal adornments to avoid unnecessary distraction, allowing the dancers to focus inwardly on feelings.

This, however, does not diminish its visual appeal. On the contrary, the style exudes a natural, understated, and elegant beauty that is second to none. The following is an example.

Dancing with Cadencia
The key element responsible for the elegance of the style is cadencia. The woman leans on the man with her chest gently pressing against his chest, enabling him to use the connection to swing her torso, causing her hip and leg to dangle in a chain reaction. Note that the woman does not use her thigh to activate her leg, but lets her leg follow the motion of the torso and hip to sway. Her attention is on the lateral motion rather than the vertical action of stepping down. This allows her body to swing gracefully with each step.

Dancing with the Hips
In doing so she needs to swivel her hips so that her free leg may take advantage of the inertia to swing either in roughly the same direction, or reversely in the opposite. Since their torsos are attached, she needs to swivel her hips to dance around him. She needs to swivel her hips when she does movements that involve changing of direction, such as front ocho, back ocho, molinete, and so on. In short, hip rotation is used all the time in her dance, highlighting the flexibility and beauty of her feminine body. The milonguero style does not emphasize footwork, so she can focus on presenting the beauty of her body, making the movement graceful, refined, and noticeable, adding elegance to her dance (see Dancing with Hips).

Dancing More Slowly
To infuse elegance into the dance, it is essential to moderate the tempo. Racing to keep up with the beat often compromises grace—a common issue in tango. Instead of chasing the rhythm, the man should provide the woman with ample time to execute each step, while the woman should focus on crafting her movement with poise and sophistication to heighten its elegance, as seen in the example above. Here's another demonstration.

Dancing with Smple, Natural Steps
Another element crucial to the elegance of the style is using simple and natural steps. Some tango styles are known for their intricate footwork and showy choreography, which, although may be beautiful in some way, lack naturalness and elegance. The following is an example.

While impressive by some standards, a display like this relies on complex steps, exaggerated movements, and excessive embellishments. It looks busy, garish, far-fetched, and beat-chasing, but lacks the confidence, serenity, ease, simplicity, naturalness, and elegance of the milonguero style. Moreover, it does not align with the melancholy mood of the music (see Dancing to Melody - Poema).

In contrast, the previous couples employ austere steps, focusing inwardly on quiet contemplation. The man leads by gently swinging the woman's body. The woman maintains a tall and straight posture while swinging gracefully, letting her intrinsic, natural beauty manifest itself.

Audrey Hepburn Said, "Elegance is the only beauty that never fades." I am convinced of that (see Embracing Elegance).

Partner-Centered Leading vs. Self-Centered Leading

Leaders in tango can be either self-centered or partner-centered. A partner-centered leader dances for his partner, guiding her with thoughtfulness, gentleness, patience, and attentiveness. In contrast, a self-centered leader prioritizes his own performance, often pushing his partner beyond her comfort zone.

For example, a self-centered leader might lead his partner into overly large steps, whereas a partner-centered leader would break them into smaller, more manageable ones. He may urge her to chase the beats, while a partner-centered leader allows her the time to complete each step gracefully. He might impose arbitrary figures to showcase his own prowess, whereas a partner-centered leader opts for simple steps that highlight her natural elegance. Finally, a self-centered leader may use his partner as a mere complement to his own exhibition, while a partner-centered leader accommodates, pampers, and elevates her—ensuring she remains the true focal point of the dance.

Here is an example of self-centered leading.

In this example, the man was preoccupied with executing routines, failing to highlight the woman’s natural grace. He prioritized his own performance over his responsibility to ensure his partner felt comfortable and enjoyed the dance. Hastily chasing the beats, he pressured her into awkward steps and abrupt turns, disregarding the melancholic mood of the music. Consequently, his self-exhibition overshadowed her expression, diminishing the harmony of their dance.

In contrast, a partner-centered leader dances for the woman. Here is an example of partner-centered leading.

In this example, the man did not force the woman into awkward steps, as was the case in the first clip, but instead led her through simple, natural movements. He did not focus solely on his routines and neglect the music, as was the case in the first clip; rather, he allowed her to immerse herself in the music, resonate with its sentiment, and dance expressively. He did not coerce her with his arms and hands, as was the case in the first clip, but instead embraced her comfortably and led her gently and attentively with his torso.

Unlike the first clip, he led with intention, carefully maintaining her axis and using inertia to make movements effortless for her. He did not force her to rotate on a tilted axis but adjusted his own position to accommodate her natural turns. Rather than rushing her to chase the beat or execute abrupt actions, he danced at a slower pace, incorporating pauses that reflected the song's melancholic mood and allowing her the time to complete each step before initiating the next lead.

These made it possible for her to focus inwardly on her emotions and the quality of her dance. Because the woman dances around the man, she must swivel her hips and pivot her lower body on one leg to step to his side with the other. After each step, she also needs to rotate her hips back to prepare for the next movement in a different direction. This technique, known as dissociation, adds complexity to her movement and requires extra time to complete each step. The man must recognize this and provide her with the necessary time to finish each movement before initiating the next lead, as demonstrated in the video. We can tell her appreciation from the way she looked at him at the end.

Please watch the video again in playback speed 0.75 in full screen to see how beautiful a woman's dance can be when she has a good leader. I recommend using this video as a teaching tool. Every tango man, novice and veteran alike, can learn something about how to lead the woman from this video. (See The Elegance of the Mionguero Style.)