Tango is not just a fascinating dance—it is a rich philosophy, culture, and way of life. The search of tango is the search of connection, love, fellowship, unity, harmony, and beauty—an idealism that is not consistent with the dehumanizing reality of the modern world. The world divides us into individuals, but tango brings us together as a team. In tango we are not individualists, feminists, nationalists, Democrats, or Republicans—we are simply human, intertwined and interdependent. Tango invites us to tear down walls, build bridges, and rediscover our shared humanity through connection, cooperation, accommodation, and compromise. It is a dance that reminds the world how to love.
December 25, 2011
Social Tango and Performance Tango
The more I reflect on the challenges facing tango today, the more I recognize the importance of distinguishing between social tango and performance tango. Advocates of performance tango often argue, “Why draw a line? They are all tango. Tango is one.” But that’s simply not true. Social tango and performance tango are fundamentally different forms of dance, each with its own distinct purpose. They differ in nearly every respect: structure, embrace, appearance, feeling, steps, techniques, methods of leading and following, and underlying philosophy (see Three Theories on Leading). Any definition that fits one inevitably excludes the other. In fact, those who have learned only one form cannot dance the other without additional training. Instead of promoting performance tango to beginners, it is better to be honest so that students understand what they are truly getting into.
Social tango is a popular dance form designed to suit the tastes, needs, and abilities of ordinary people. It is a spontaneous and improvisational dance, typically danced in a close embrace with substantial physical contact, fulfilling a deep human desire for connection and intimacy. It is danced for personal pleasure in the milongas, guided by the milonga codes. While incorporating technical and aesthetic elements, its steps are simple, allowing dancers to focus on inner experiences—emotions, feelings, intimacy, comfort, and connection. Dancing social tango is a deeply personal and soulful experience. What matters is how it feels, not how it looks (see Highbrowism and Populism in Tango).
Performance tango, by contrast, is a highbrow dance form created for the stage. It is a theatrical rendition of tango, featuring intricate choreography and advanced techniques suited for trained professionals. Unlike improvisational social tango, performance tango is choreographed and rehearsed, typically danced in an open hold to enable expansive movements. Its steps are wide, elaborate, and often dangerous, requiring ample space. It is not intended to provide an intimate, soulful, or personal experience, but to showcase flashy figures and dazzling movements to entertain an audience. This form of tango does not adhere to the milonga codes and is ill-suited for crowded dance floors. Safety, comfort, and user-friendliness are not its priorities. What matters is how it looks, not how it feels.
I believe learning performance tango—especially before mastering social tango—is not in the best interest of most students. It is a waste of their time and money for several reasons. For one, very few students aspire to become stage performers. Without a strong foundation in social tango, meaningful performance is also unattainable. Moreover, the habits acquired from learning performance tango—such as relying on arms and hands to lead and follow, neglecting meaningful communication through direct torso connection, emphasizing appearance over feeling, ignoring the comfort and safety of others, and using difficult or dangerous movements—can hinder one’s enjoyment of social tango and create disturbances in the milonga.
For the vast majority of students, social tango should be the focus of their learning. This is because their goal is to dance in milongas for enjoyment, not on stage to entertain an audience. They need a user-friendly dance that suits their abilities, not a difficult and inaccessible form. They seek connection and intimacy, not a showy, uncomfortable display of ego. Furthermore, developing proficiency in social tango provides a solid foundation if they ever decide to pursue performance.
In the United States, the blending of social tango and performance tango has caused numerous problems in our milongas. In Buenos Aires, the two forms are distinct. Social tango is danced in the milongas, while performance tango is reserved for the stage (see The Styles of Tango). Professional performers who dance performance tango on stage exclusively dance social tango when attending milongas. Teachers in Buenos Aires are transparent about what they teach—those who teach social tango specify it as such, and those who teach performance tango make that clear as well. They do not “hang up a sheep’s head to sell dog meat.” Separate competitions are organized for each form. I believe this separation is how tango should be handled everywhere.
December 18, 2011
Highbrowism and Populism in Tango
Art forms that reflect the general public’s tastes, needs, and educational backgrounds are often categorized as popular arts. In contrast, highbrow arts are defined by their very high standards and exceptional technical requirements, often beyond the reach of the average individual. For example, highbrow music typically demands a complexity and range that only a select few performers can achieve, whereas pop songs, with their simpler techniques and narrower vocal demands, are accessible to nearly everyone.
The belief that intricate and demanding art is inherently superior to straightforward and accessible forms, however, is deeply misguided. A painting is not automatically more valuable than a photograph, just as a pop song can be as compelling as an operatic aria. In fact, simplicity and accessibility often yield extraordinary results. Simplicity is not synonymous with artistic inferiority, nor does ease imply a lack of skill. On the contrary, achieving both often requires a high degree of sophistication. Truly accomplished artists make their craft appear effortless, and those who masterfully distill complexity into simplicity often demonstrate greater virtuosity than those who do not (see Simple Is Beautiful).
Individuals who believe in art for art's sake often overlook a fundamental truth: art—especially popular art—is created for people. What value does a pop song have if it is too complex for the general public to enjoy? What's the worth of a social dance if only an elite few can perform it? Argentine tango is a prime example of a social dance; it was created by sailors, gauchos, immigrant workers, and street women. It maintains its grassroots essence in Argentina even today. Most people who dance tango are ordinary people. They love tango because it is a simple and easy dance that serves their need for connection and affinity with other souls.
Those who regard themselves above the crowd try to make tango increasingly intricate and challenging. I question whether this serves the dance well. Tango will continue to evolve as an art form, of course, but transforming it into a highbrow dance akin to ballet is, in my view, a step in the wrong direction. The vitality of tango lies in its popularity and sociability, without these qualities, it risks becoming a detached, impractical art, a castle in the air.
Schopenhauer’s well-known remark, “Man is either vulgar or lonely,” invites multiple interpretations. It may encourage embracing individuality rather than conforming to the crowd. It could also warn against aloofness that leads to isolation. Alternatively, it may speak to the need for balance between refinement and accessibility, between high and popular culture. In the case of tango, this final interpretation seems especially apt. As a Chinese proverb wisely observes, “Water that is too clear has no fish, and a man with overly high standards has no followers.” Schopenhauer’s words, too, may be best understood as a caution: in seeking to set ourselves apart, we risk cutting off from the very human connection that gives art—and tango—its soul.
December 14, 2011
Tango and Romanticism
Romanticism emerged in the late 18th century as a cultural and artistic movement that celebrated the human spirit. It exalted emotion, imagination, heroism, and idealism in response to the dehumanizing forces of industrialization, which prioritized mechanization and efficiency over the richness of the human condition. At its heart, Romanticism sought to reclaim the beauty of feeling, the depth of emotional expression, and the fullness of human experience—an influence that continues to resonate across literature, art, and culture.
In our postmodern age—marked by technology, superficiality, and relentless speed—the ideals of Romanticism feel more vital than ever. Nowhere is this more apparent than in tango: a dance born of longing, emotion, and profound human connection. Tango was never merely a form of entertainment. It emerged as an expressive language for the yearnings, dreams, and desires that define the human experience, embodying the essence of Romanticism (see Tango Is the Search for a Dream).
Yet today, critics often note that some tango performances have drifted toward spectacle—highlighting gymnastic feats and acrobatic flourishes that, while physically impressive, miss the emotional core of the dance. These displays favor surface over substance, emphasizing visual effect over internal feeling. True tango is not about dazzling tricks; it is about the invisible thread that binds two people in connection and intimacy. It evokes the drama of a romance—two partners navigating uncertainty together, grounded in trust, support, and emotional presence. At its best, tango is a dance of shared feeling—a Romantic art form that stands in stark contrast to athletic display. Rather than reaching outward for applause, tango turns inward, drawing from the well of human spirit, empathy, and resonance (see The Conceptual Beauty of Tango).
When stripped of these deeper qualities, tango risks becoming just another sport or show—technically adept, but emotionally hollow. In a culture increasingly shaped by games over classics, sport over art, and technology over humanity, there is a real danger that tango may lose its essence. Many raised in such an environment are drawn to novelty, speed, and change, often at the expense of substance and timeless beauty.
To preserve tango’s classic elegance, we must rekindle the Romantic spirit—in both teaching and practice. This means embracing simplicity and naturalness, valuing elegance over extravagance, and allowing genuine emotion to guide the dance. While trends may rise and fall, Romanticism offers a timeless expression of our shared humanity. It endures, quietly awaiting rediscovery. And when reawakened through tango, it elevates the dance into a profound and poetic celebration of human connection—resonating across generations (see Embracing Elegance).
November 28, 2011
Tango Is a Language (I)
Tango may not immediately seem like a language, but it undeniably is. Like any form of communication, it can be taught, learned, and mastered to express intention, emotion, musical interpretation, and the nuanced qualities of movement—such as type, size, direction, speed, and variation. Those fluent in this language converse effortlessly on the dance floor, attuned to their partner’s subtle cues and responding in perfect synchrony. Those who have yet to develop this fluency often find themselves struggling to express their intent or interpret their partner’s movements, leading to awkward and frustrating experiences.
Tango, much like any language, possesses its own alphabet, vocabulary, grammar, and composition. The body's parts—head, arms, hands, torso, waist, hips, legs, and feet—serve as its alphabet. With these, dancers construct steps, forming the vocabulary. Musicality and communication act as the grammar, shaping how movements are combined into an expressive, improvised dialogue. Choreography, which arranges these elements into a cohesive artistic performance, completes the composition.
As with any language, learning tango should begin with its alphabet and grammar. Without the alphabet, words cannot be formed. Without grammar, words cannot be used. A common issue in tango education is the disproportionate focus on vocabulary—memorizing steps—while neglecting foundational elements. We fail to embrace correctly, misunderstand the roles of various body parts, and use them awkwardly or inefficiently (see The Functions of Various Body Parts in Tango). Poor posture weakens our connection. Stiffness, heaviness, and inflexibility hinder fluidity. We struggle to dissociate the upper and lower body, leading to imbalanced and unstable movement. We neglect the music, failing to step on the beat or reflect its mood and sentiment. Communication falters—our lead is unclear, and our follow, clumsy. As a result, despite knowing many steps, we cannot integrate them into a dance that is meaningful, musical, harmonious, and beautiful.
Tango boasts a vast vocabulary, yet no dancer masters every step—just as no speaker knows every word in a language. Fortunately, fluency doesn’t require exhaustive knowledge. In Chinese, for instance, there are over 60,000 characters. The most comprehensive dictionary, the Kangxi Dictionary, contains 47,000, while the widely used Xinhua Dictionary lists about 8,500. Yet, a mere 950 characters account for 90% of everyday writing, and adding another 2,800 covers 99.9%. Most characters are seldom used.
Tango operates much like a language, with a core set of essential steps for social dancing. Fundamental movements—such as walking, salida, resolution, switching between parallel and cross systems, cruzada, pivot, dissociation, cadencia, front ocho, back ocho, molinete, giro, rock, and traspie—make up about 90% of what’s used on the dance floor. More intricate steps—like ocho cortado, sandwich, boleo, sacada, parada, barrida, corrida, carpa, planeo, lapiz, enganche, volcada, americana, media vuelta, media luna, arrastrar, and zarandeo—comprise the remaining 9%, serving as optional embellishments rather than necessities in social tango.
Then there are some steps that are rarely used in social dancing, such as giro–enrosque–lapiz combinations, calesita, castigadas, back sacadas, ganchos, high boleos, colgadas, single-axis turns, soltadas, patadas, sentadas, kicks, and lifts. These movements are designed primarily for professional performance, where they add dramatic flair. However, they lack the ease and accessibility of social tango steps. Many are difficult, uncomfortable, or dangerous to execute in a crowded milonga. Others demand excessive space, making them impractical for social dancing (see Social Tango and Performance Tango).
It’s unwise to focus on what is rarely used while neglecting the fundamentals that truly matter. Yet many tango students do exactly that. A better approach is to focus on tango’s alphabet, grammar, and core vocabulary instead of jumping into big fancy words without a solid foundation. Frankly, for most people, the basics are all they need to enjoy social tango. Once you understand that, tango becomes a simple and accessible dance. Those with special talent and interest in performance can pursue that path—but only after mastering the fundamentals, and certainly not at a milonga, where even professionals dance socially and respectfully. (See Tango Is a Language (II).)
November 11, 2011
Driving and Synchronization
Raul Cabral is a master of tango—an insightful thinker and renowned teacher of the milonguero style. On his website, http://www.raultangocabral.com.ar, he published a series of essays that delve deeply into the essence of tango. The following is a brief summary of his key message about achieving synchronization through a proper embrace.
The most important qualities of a tango dancer have nothing to do with steps. For the leader, what matters most are musicality and the ability to drive or guide the follower. For the follower, it is to move with lightness and to synchronize fully with the leader.
In tango, the leader is the driver—he uses his body to generate the movement of his partner. Each of his steps should transmit to hers, or be expressed through her. Driving does not mean that he moves first and waits for her to follow. Tango is synchronization: moving together, at the same time. In this light, the word “follow” is misleading, as it implies a delay—even the smallest lag breaks synchronization. A better metaphor is that the follower steps into the moving car of the leader, allowing herself to be carried along with him on a shared musical journey.
The magic of tango—the unique experience of two bodies moving as one—is made possible through the embrace. It is the embrace that allows the body to communicate intention, energy, and emotion. Many people, through tango, are beginning to discover the importance of the embrace, which takes us back to the first years of our lives, the earliest experiences of human connection, and the protective warmth of a woman’s chest. It is this deep need for connection that draws people to tango and gives it universal appeal.
Driving and synchronization are made possible through the quality of the embrace. Since the beginning of tango, there has been only one true form of communication in the dance: corporal, from body to body—not from arms to arms. The partners connect through their torsos, each leaning slightly forward, balanced over the entire foot, including the heels. Each dancer maintains their own balance. The man opens his chest and offers it to the woman, welcoming her into his space. He holds her firmly but without pressure—his body is relaxed, never tense or rigid. He leads with his entire body, especially through the chest, from which he communicates everything: feeling, direction, step size, timing, cadence, pauses, and more. He maintains uninterrupted contact with her, never breaking the flow of communication.
The woman settles into the embrace, molding herself to him as if he were wearing her. She leans slightly forward, aligning her chest to receive every subtle message from his torso. Her upper body extends from the waist like the string of a violin, ready to vibrate at his slightest signal. She remains soft and relaxed. Through this relaxation, her extremities—legs, arms, and head—become light and almost immaterial, while her chest becomes the center of perception. This attunement allows her to feel the leader’s intentions and move in perfect unison. Her weight is centered on the inside ball of the foot, with the whole foot—including the heel—anchored to the floor. Her arm rests gently and weightlessly on his shoulder. She doesn’t hang on him or use the embrace for support; she holds her own balance, making herself light. She is supple yet toned, soft yet without looseness (such as in the hips). Her presence is felt through the subtle but assured pressure of her chest against his. She does not retreat or break the connection, knowing that any separation will cut her off from his signals. She remains continuously attuned to the messages that come from his chest. Until the music ends, her chest remains in constant contact with his. This is the most precise path to true synchronization.
November 2, 2011
Tango Embrace
Tango can be danced in a variety of ways. For example, it can be danced in a virtual embrace, where the two partners move in sync without physical contact. The man leads with visual signals to indicate movements, while the women interprets these cues to execute each step. A visual lead is difficult to perceive because it relies solely on sight rather than touch. The differences between signals are often so subtle that they become hard to discern with the eye. It's quite a challenge for the man to send a clear visual signal and for the woman to apprehend it. Also, a virtual embrace lacks the physicality, sensation, and comfort of a physical embrace, limiting movements that require physical support. Despite these constraints, the virtual embrace highlights a fundamental distinction between leading and following: one is ploting the dance, and the other is beautifying the dance. It also underscores that leading and following are not purely physical but deeply psychological, requiring mental focus and understanding. This awareness is crucial, as we cannot dance well with our feet unless we can dance with our hearts.
Tango can also be danced in an open dance hold similar to that in ballroom dancing, where the dancers connect only through their arms and hands. Since arms and hands are extensions of the body, so even without direct torso contact, dancers can still perceive each other’s intentions through them. The open dance hold, also known by its fine-sounding name “open embrace,” provides greater freedom of movement, making it a favorite among action-oriented dancers who enjoy performing elaborate figures. It is arguable, however, that in an open embrace dancers still lead and follow with their torsos as they theoretically should. In reality, the absence of torso contact often leads dancers to rely on their arms and hands for signaling, which is not as seamless as leading and following with torsos. Also, the open embrace lacks the intimacy, comfort, and soulful quality of the close embrace.
Tango can also be danced using only torso connection, without relying on the arms or hands. Direct torso communication is a distinctive and essential aspect of Argentine tango, making it an intimate, deeply felt, and soulful dance. However, beginners often shy about intimacy and default to using their arms and hands to send and receive signals. To help students overcome this hurdle, tango teachers may instruct them to dance solely with torso contact, avoiding the use of their arms and hands. Some even place a sheet of paper between their chests, challenging them to keep it from falling as they move. While this exercise does not reflect how tango is typically danced, the skills it develops provide students with a strong foundation for their tango.
The most comfortable and communicative embrace is the close embrace, where partners lean into each other, chest against chest, with their cheeks touching. His left hand and her right hand meet at shoulder height, his right arm encircles her body, and her left arm drapes over his right shoulder. This close embrace provides the most intimate connection and effective communication, making it favored by feeling-oriented dancers who enjoy the intimate, cozy, and soulful interactions between the partners more than gymnastic movements. This close embrace is the most common embrace used in social dancing.
Beginners may find close embrace restrictive, but this is simply due to inexperience. Dancing in close embrace requires a different skill set from that used in the open embrace style. This includes dancing in a compact way, using small, simple, rhythmic, and synchronized steps, the command on dissociation, the mastery of cadencia, the ability to do spot dancing, the knack in floorcraft on a crowded dance floor, the focus on feelings rather than steps, and the emphasis on the elegance rather than flaunt of the movements, ect.
Experienced dancers may also adapt the close embrace to allow for greater movement. One is the V-shaped embrace, where only one side of the torso remains in contact, allowing more freedom on the open side. Another is increasing the body’s forward lean to create space between the legs. A combination of both offers yet another option. These variations serve as a compromise between intimacy and mobility, though they demand greater stamina and offer less comfort than the classic close embrace.
Dancers often transition between different embraces as needed. For example, during an ocho, the woman may shift between a chest-to-chest embrace and a V-shaped embrace. The choice of embrace depends on several factors, including physical attributes (flexibility and stamina), dance style (movement-oriented or feeling-oriented), purpose (social dancing or performance), environment (floor density and milonga codes), music (fast or slow tempo), movements (complex or simple, large or small steps), experience (age and skill level), and genre (tango, vals, or milonga).
Each embrace offers distinct advantages and limitations. In the milonguero style, a close embrace enhances emotional communication. In Villa Urquiza, a slightly looser hold allows for refined legwork. In stage tango, an open embrace enables intricate and theatrical movement (see Three Theories on Leading).
Historically, the close embrace contributed to tango’s reputation as the “dance of the brothel,” leading to its rejection by polite society. The emergence of the open embrace style helped tango gain wider acceptance, particularly among younger dancers who embraced its potential for performance, sparking the tango nuevo movement. This evolution flourished outside Argentina—often in cultures less accustomed to physical intimacy.
As tango shifted in this direction, it began to lose its original essence. Acrobatic displays, fragmented connection, adoption of non-tango elements, alternative music, shifts in gender roles, same-sex partnering, and other experimental approaches gave rise to a hybridized form. In contrast, the old guard—Argentine milongueros—remain steadfast in preserving tango’s roots. Their style, known as tango milonguero, danced in close embrace, continues to dominate Buenos Aires’ social dance scene. Yet, the debate between traditionalists and reformers remains.
October 9, 2011
The Signature of Tango
Music lies at the heart of tango. Mediocre, unfamiliar, eccentric, or outlandish music has never inspired a beautiful dance. Truly exceptional tango is always performed to well-crafted, classic tango music—an indispensable source of inspiration that brings dancers’ skills to life. Great music electrifies the dancers, stirs their emotions, sparks creativity, builds synergy, and gives rise to what Argentinians call duende—a heightened state in which dancers transcend themselves. Without it, even the most gifted dancer is constrained.
Though there are tens of thousands of tango tracks available, only a small fraction are truly suitable for dancing. Most are either mediocre or composed for listening rather than dancing. CD producers understand this and often mix a few quality tracks into compilations to ensure sales. A typical 20-track album might contain only one or two truly danceable songs; the rest are filler. Argentinians, steeped in tango culture, know their music. They'll buy a CD for those one or two gems and disregard the rest. American tourists, however, often buy a CD and play every track, unaware of the musical nuances. Without a discerning ear, they collect tango music as indiscriminately as they collect tango steps—often favoring the novel, the obscure, or the exotic, regardless of danceability.
Experts agree: familiarity with music is essential to a vibrant tango experience. Argentinians only play time-honored classics in their milongas, avoiding even unfamiliar tango songs, let alone outlandish or alternative music. Playing such music undermines the dance—it lacks the richness and emotional depth of classic tango and turns the dance into a hybrid form tailored to foreign tastes. This, however, alienates the milongueros who are the lifeblood of the milonga. In Argentina, these seasoned dancers are held in high regard, honored with discounted admission, prime seating, and their favorite Golden Age music in the milongas.
Classic tango music is the signature of tango, developed in tandem with the dance and for it. People recognize and associate it with tango the moment they hear it. There is a deep emotional bond between the two. In essence, tango dance and classic tango music are two aspects of one thing called Argentine tango, inseparable as body and soul. While tango steps can be applied to other music, the essence is lost in translation. One could dance tango to the sounds of Beijing opera—but it would no longer be tango.
Music from other traditions lacks the rhythmic foundation and emotional complexity of classic tango. Classic tango is passionate, layered, dynamic, sentimental, moody, and rich in syncopation, inviting interpretation and improvisation (see The Characteristics of Classic Tango). Any music that shares these qualities can support tango. Music that lacks the intricate structure and emotional richness of tango is not the best music for tango dancing. It appeals mostly to novices with undeveloped taste, to those drawn to novelty for its own sake, or to individuals marketing to that audience for profit.
Those who love tango more than money can elevate the art in a simple yet powerful way. A three-hour milonga typically consists of about 15 tandas, or 60 songs. By curating a collection of the 600 best classic tango tracks and playing only them—just as the Argentinians do in the milongas of Buenos Aires—we can transform our tango culture and elevate the quality of our dance in ways we cannot yet fully imagine. After all, tango is intrinsically connected to its music. The better the music, the more enjoyable the dancing, the more fulfilled the dancers, and the more successful the milonga. (See My Two Cents on Music Selections.)
September 17, 2011
Simple Is Beautiful
In societies of scarcity, simplicity and frugality arise from necessity. But in our age of abundance, excess has become the norm. Tasks once handled with a basic kitchen knife are now assigned to a host of gadgets—one for chopping eggs, another for slicing meat, one for tomatoes, another for peeling apples, and yet another for shredding cucumbers. Our kitchens overflow with clutter, reflecting the complexity that permeates our homes, shopping malls, governments, and tax codes. Our national debt has surpassed $14 trillion, with $350 billion paid annually in interest alone—yet we continue spending as though our resources are infinite. Commercial culture bombards us with increasingly bizarre ads, each louder and more desperate for attention than the last. It’s no wonder that many young people now mistake eccentricity for beauty. Punk hairstyles, tattoos, piercings, sagging pants—these are less aesthetic statements than desperate bids to be seen.
The way we dance tango mirrors this cultural excess. At its core, tango is a simple dance, but we insist on complicating it. In Argentina, it is danced with natural, modest, and unpretentious steps. Here, it is often burdened with flashy, exaggerated, and awkward movements. Simplicity is an acquired taste we have yet to cultivate. We equate complexity with sophistication, peculiarity with beauty. While Argentine tango honors the music, the emotion, the connection, and the shared harmony between partners, our version tends to be dominated by theatrical footwork, revealing costumes, extravagant venues, and lavish festivals. Substance gives way to spectacle.
I advocate for an aesthetic grounded in simplicity and authenticity. Nature’s beauty lies in its quiet elegance. A light touch of makeup feels more genuine than layers of concealer. A home with simple, uncluttered decor is more inviting than one overrun with gaudy ornaments. Clear, concise writing communicates more powerfully than verbose prose. Silence often speaks louder than words. Excess can distract rather than enhance—and this is especially true in tango. Simple steps radiate elegance, allowing dancers to connect more deeply with the music and each other, creating an intimate, inward-focused dialogue. As I’ve discussed elsewhere (see The Advantages of Simplicity over Flashy Movements), simplicity in art often unlocks unexpected, often superior, outcomes. A dance video that recreates a traditional Chinese painting exemplifies this beautifully.
The same principle holds true in tango. A master dancer can evoke profound beauty with minimal movement, embodying the idea that "simplicity is the ultimate sophistication." This subtle artistry is lost on those fixated on surface-level flash. Tango should not be an extravagant luxury, but a quiet joy—a deeply personal experience that doesn’t require lavish spending. As dancers, we must resist the pull of commercialism and superficiality, and instead focus on what truly matters. Just as a woman with inner grace captivates more deeply than one relying solely on appearance, tango moves us not with spectacle, but with connection and feeling. Strip away the performance, and what remains is something more genuine, more profound—and ultimately, more beautiful (see The Conceptual Beauty of Tango).
September 4, 2011
True Beauty Comes from Within
We love tango in part because it is a beautiful dance. Our appreciation for beauty is deeply ingrained in human nature. Just as flowers bloom and birds sing to attract mates, beauty offers an evolutionary advantage—enhancing our chances of connection, survival, and success. For this reason, beauty is sought after, admired, and often imitated. Yet, in our relentless pursuit of it, beauty has gradually shifted from something natural and authentic to something artificial and, at times, deceptive.
This fixation on appearances often comes at the expense of substance, leading to a host of unintended consequences. While a beautiful woman may enjoy certain privileges, she may also face significant challenges. She might become entitled or superficial, ill-prepared for life’s harsher realities. Her desirability may attract unwanted attention, jealousy, or competition, making trust and genuine connection harder to come by. As a result, she may become guarded, aloof, or mistrustful—living a life that is far from carefree. Everything has a cost. Beauty is only skin-deep, and it is neither the only thing nor the most important thing—in life or in tango.
Just as an obsession with appearance can blind us to inner qualities, an infatuation with flashy steps can obscure the true essence of tango: connection, emotion, and feeling. Without these, tango becomes an empty performance. True beauty in tango comes from within. It reveals itself in the commitment, understanding, musicality, agreement, and harmony between partners. If you visit Buenos Aires, you’ll see this in the way the milongueros dance. They pay little attention to showy moves. Instead, they focus on the relationship, the music, and the shared feeling—and their dance is so compelling that it’s often imitated by outsiders who fail to grasp its essence.
Tango is still young in the United States. It takes time and maturity to move beyond superficiality and to understand what true beauty really means. The more I dance with women of all ages, the more I appreciate those who are mature. Even in Buenos Aires, I’ve found that older women tend to be better dancers overall. As their youthful freshness fades, they begin to embrace the deeper, more meaningful aspects of the dance. My hope is that, as tango continues to evolve in our country, we too will move beyond surface-level aesthetics and embrace the substance of this art form—as we grow into more mature dancers. (See The Conceptual Beautify of Tango.)
August 14, 2011
Women’s Role in Cabeceo
When a man finds a woman attractive, the first thing he does is look at her. His eyes linger, captivated, unable to turn away. The woman may ignore him if she’s uninterested, or she may meet his gaze if she feels the same spark. Encouraged, the man might wink or give a subtle nod to signal his intent—or he might look away if he decides not to pursue. This silent game between men and women plays out every day, everywhere.
In the milongas of Buenos Aires, this is also the game men and women play. A man scans the dance floor, searching for a potential partner. When he spots a woman he'd like to dance with, he fixes his gaze on her. A woman who is also looking for a partner will soon sense his attention. If she doesn’t want to dance with him, she looks away. If she does, she holds his gaze and waits for him to invite her. He does so by a slight nod of his head, and she responds with a nod of her own to accept his invitation. This entire exchange happens in silence, without a single word spoken.
This method of inviting a woman to dance is called cabeceo. Cabeceo became a standard practice in the milongas of Buenos Aires primarily because tango is an intimate dance. Argentine tango is danced in close embrace, with significant physical contact between partners. For a woman to engage in such an intimate experience, it must be her choice. Otherwise, even if she reluctantly accepts a dance, she will be reserved, detached, and unengaged. She will not surrender herself to the man and dance with passion and emotion. This is why cabeceo is considered an essential part of tango. A milonguero will not dance with a woman unless she shows a clear desire to dance with him by meeting his gaze and responding to his cabeceo with a nodding acceptance.
Cabeceo offers a distinct advantage over verbal invitations: it empowers women. For tango to be a deeply fulfilling experience, a woman needs a partner who matches her skill and musicality. To find that match, she cannot sit idly waiting for someone to approach her; she must engage in the matching process, and she must select from all the men present, not just the few who wander to her table. An Argentine woman does not wait passively for someone to pick her. Instead, she takes the initiative by expressing her desire to dance with the man of her choice. In that way she invites him to cabeceo her and prevents herself from unwanted invitations.
For men, cabeceo is also a better way to invite a woman to dance. To issue a verbal invitation, a man must traverse the room to reach the woman. If she declines, not only does he have to swallow the embarrassment, but he also has to make the return journey. By then, other potential partners may already be taken, forcing him to wait until the next tanda for another opportunity. But with cabeceo, he can quickly and discreetly secure a dance partner without the risk of public rejection.
For cabeceo to work, women must participate. If women do not actively search for partners, men cannot cabeceo them, even if they want to. But for women to be proactive, tango must be an intimate experience so personal to them that they don’t want to do it with anyone other than the men of their choice, just as they would not sleep with anyone other than those they love. The reason cabeceo doesn’t work in the U.S. is that our tango has not yet reached that level. Most women here are novices to tango and are unable to dance tango in a deeply personal way. They avoid close embrace, preferring open holds to minimize physical contact. They do not surrender and engage with men in the dance. They focuse on the steps and neglect their partner. They sit chatting with each other, seemingly indifferent to the men around. They avoid eye contact for fear of giving men ideas. They ignore men who look at them because they do not understand the custom or how to respond. As a result, they can only wait for someone to come and accept any verbal invitation.
It is ironic that in macho Argentina women get to decide with whom they want to be intimate by using cabeceo, while in feminist America women have so little control on a matter so personal to them. Cabeceo is a hallmark of a mature tango community. It results from women's active participation in the partner matching process. Most importantly, it is an indication of their tango education and experience. This, by the way, is another reason why milongueros only use cabeceo to invite women to dance.
July 14, 2011
Tango Is a Relationship
Tango is an intimate dance. It invites your partner into your space—touching your body, feeling your response, enjoying your obedience, experiencing your protection, and sharing your cooperation. It opens a path to your inner self, allowing your partner to hear your unspoken voice. Indeed, much can be learned about a person through dancing with them. The way you connect, move, communicate, respond, and adapt reveals your somatic, psychological, ethical, artistic, and aesthetic sensibilities. Your dance is a mirror of who you are—whether you are warm or distant, shy or open, expressive or restrained, spontaneous or rigid, musical or tone-deaf, sensitive or sluggish, serene or restless, accommodating or contentious, graceful or awkward, yielding or assertive. In tango, nothing is hidden.
Tango is a relationship. Like any relationship where the well-being of the involved parties is linked, you must strive to be your best self to bring out the best in your partner. In tango, as in life, the greatest obstacle is the ego. It is the ego that fosters self-centeredness, arrogance, control, rigidity, irritability, rudeness, and resistance. True enjoyment of tango arises only when two people move as one in complete agreement and harmony. This unity requires letting go of ego, surrendering to your partner, attuning to their inner rhythm, and keeping your movements in sync with theirs. You must accommodate yourself to them, subtly complementing their strengths and compensating for their weaknesses, ensuring they feel entirely comfortable and able to enjoy the dance with you. If you focus only on yourself and neglect your partner, the dance will fail—no matter how precise your steps are.
Ultimately, tango as a social act demands good manners. Learning tango is far more than mastering steps. It is, among other things such as acquiring a taste, a new set of values, and a different culture, learning to be one with another person. Unfortunately, this perspective is frequently overlooked. Too often, people get caught up in their own egos and forget what really matters. Don’t make that mistake. Tango isn’t about show—it’s about connection.
April 30, 2011
Tango as a Philosophy
Tango means different things to different people. For men, it is the art of leading; for women, the skill of following. For beginners, it is about learning steps; for seasoned dancers, it becomes an expression of music and emotion. To lovers, tango is a relationship; to attention seekers, a show. For heterosexuals, it embodies gender expression; for homosexuals, it offers a space for gender-neutral play. Social dancers view tango as a personal escape, while professionals treat it as a craft to captivate an audience. Casual enthusiasts see it as recreation; devoted milongueros live it as a lifestyle. To foreigners, tango may be a curiosity or cultural fascination, but for Argentinians, it is a deeply ingrained emblem of national identity and heritage. Ultimately, each of us dances tango through our own lens, shaped by who we are and how we connect to it.
Tango philosophy explores the questions that define us as dancers and individuals. Below is an incomplete list of such questions, each open to multiple answers. Some may be more technically correct or incorrect, while others simply reflect personal preferences—neither right nor wrong. Collectively, these diverse perspectives and choices shape how we dance, interact, and identify within the tango community. By examining and exchanging viewpoints on these matters, we can deepen our understanding, learn from one another, refine our dance, and, hopefully, achieve mastery through a holistic appreciation of all aspects of tango.
1. What is tango
2. Why people dance tango
3. Different styles of tango
4. Embrace-orientation vs. step-orientation
5. Action-orientation vs. feeling-orientation
6. Close embrace vs. open embrace
7. Social tango vs. performance tango
8. Artistic sublimation vs. vulgarism
9. Cultural bias and impacts
10. The relationship of the two sexes
11. The gender roles in tango
12. Gender independence vs. gender interdependence
13. Gender neutrality vs. gender expression
14. Feminism and its impact on tango
15. Individualism and its impact on tango
16. Individual performance vs. teamwork
17. Tango as a skill vs. tango as a fellowship
18. Elitism vs. populism
19. Romanticism vs. gymnastics
20. Prioritizing look vs. prioritizing essence
21. Imitating steps vs. developing skills
22. The unity of form and content
23. The danceability of tango music
24. Classic tango music vs. alternative music
25. Dancing steps vs. dancing music
26. Dancing to rhythm vs. dancing to melody
27. Three theories on leading
28. Self-centered leading vs. partner-centered leading
29. Active follow vs. passive follow
30. Simplicity vs. complexity
31. Elegance vs. fanciness
32. Steps vs. chreography
33. Progressive dancing vs. spot dancing
34. Reliance vs. lightness
35. Reform vs. tradition
36. Comfort vs. beauty
37. Creativity vs. standardization
38. Liberty vs. milonga codes
39. Cabeseo vs. verbal invitation
40. The freedom in tango
41. Tango and the outlook on life
42. A dance that teaches the world to love
January 27, 2011
Walk
Traditional tango pedagogy places great emphasis on the walk. In earlier times, tango masters would dedicate extensive time to teaching students how to walk before progressing to any figures—and with good reason. First, tango is fundamentally a walking dance. No other dance form incorporates walking to the extent that tango does. Second, there is a strong correlation between walking and dancing: the difficulties dancers face in walking often manifest in their dancing. Those who walk well tend to dance well; those who struggle with the walk typically carry those issues into more complex movements. Third, walking is the simplest step in tango, yet it underpins all others. If dancers cannot execute a basic walk correctly, it is unlikely that they will perform advanced steps well, as many problems can often be traced back to a weak walk.
Moreover, because walking is such a straightforward movement, it provides an excellent opportunity to develop other foundational skills, such as posture, embrace, connection, communication, balance, stability, lightness, dissociation, and musicality. Beginners cannot effectively focus on all these elements while learning complex movements. They must first master the basics before advancing to intricate steps and figures. To achieve this, exercises need to remain simple, and practicing walking serves as the perfect means to this end.
The subpar quality of our tango can be attributed, in many ways, to insufficient training in walking. American culture tends to promote learning as something that should be fun and easy. Our schools are designed to provide the most entertaining environments with minimal homework. Teachers often avoid boring students with repetitive drills. In the same vein, tango students often want to skip ahead to advanced moves, assuming they already know how to walk.
Nothing could be further from the truth. You might look normal—until people see you learning to walk in tango. In fact, everyone looks clumsy and even amusing during their first tango walk. This is because walking chest-to-chest in close embrace is not something people naturally do. You are reluctant and uncomfortable being in such close proximity to a stranger, leaning into them while stepping backward. Your body feels heavy, stiff, and unbalanced. You struggle to stay on beat, extend your leg far enough backward, or avoid being stepped on by your partner. Your posture is misaligned, with your butt sticking out, knees bending excessively, or bouncing and wobbling as you move. Many also find it difficult to dissociate at the hips while walking alongside their partner, resulting in an unsteady embrace and unintentionally pulling their partner off balance. (See Women's Walk in Tango.)
Until you’re comfortable in the embrace, you're not ready for the next steps. This is why walking is so crucial. It is simple, it keeps you grounded, and it helps you focus on the essentials. In fact, it’s not just about walking—it’s about everything foundational: posture, embrace, balance, connection, musicality, communication, dissociation, lightness, stability, flexibility, elegance, and harmony. Walking forms the bedrock of your tango. Everything else builds from there.
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